Why Some People Love Getting Their Penises Tortured

“If you told someone with a penis that you were going to scratch, slap, or tie up their genitals, chances are, they’d recoil at the mere thought of the pain. But, there are also people out there who wouldn’t just withstand that agony; they’d love it. They enjoy a kink based on this specific kind of pleasure: cock-and-ball torture (CBT)…”

link: http://www.refinery29.com/cock-and-ball-torture-cbt-meaning

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Why Aftercare Is The BDSM Practice That Everyone Should Be Doing

“If you’re unfamiliar with the BDSM scene, you might think it’s all whips, handcuffs, and pleasurable pain, but there’s one important element that BDSM practitioners have built into their sex lives to make sure that everyone involved feels safe and cared for after play time is over: a practice known as aftercare. And whether you’re into BDSM or have more vanilla tastes, aftercare is something everyone should be doing.”

link: http://www.refinery29.com/what-is-bdsm-sex-aftercare

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“…But since people will still be asking this question (and I’ll still be unable to resist the compulsion to answer) when I’m 97 and senile, I might as well go ahead and write my “definitive” answer to this question now; that way it won’t matter if I go all soft in the brains department, I can just refer to my notes that say, “This is your opinion on such-and-such, remember?”

So what is the difference between a submissive and a slave?”

link: http://www.katekinsey.com/the-difference-between-a-slave-and-a-submissive.html

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Lifestyle Dominants and Professional Dominants: Can’t We All Just Get Along

“I heard the terms “lifestyle domme” and “professional domme” one too many times, especially on the fem- domme websites. My question is what the hell is the difference? You kinky folk are so confusing with your terms. Please explain the difference to a simpleton like me.”

link: http://www.miaminewtimes.com/arts/lifestyle-dominants-and-professional-dominants-cant-we-all-just-get-along-6493687

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What It Means To Be A TRUE Dominant (And Not Just Another D*ck)

“We think “Dominant” and immediately fantasize about power and control and exercising those desires, without acknowledging the reality that we are not the only person here. Somehow that can get lost and we assume that “Dominant” means just that, and the other person is just a replaceable prop we are playing with… Here are three key factors a Dominant must keep in mind at all times when embarking on a BDSM relationship with a submissive.”

link: http://www.yourtango.com/2017301165/what-it-means-be-true-dominant-bdsm-relationship-submissive

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