Why Aftercare Is The BDSM Practice That Everyone Should Be Doing

“If you’re unfamiliar with the BDSM scene, you might think it’s all whips, handcuffs, and pleasurable pain, but there’s one important element that BDSM practitioners have built into their sex lives to make sure that everyone involved feels safe and cared for after play time is over: a practice known as aftercare. And whether you’re into BDSM or have more vanilla tastes, aftercare is something everyone should be doing.”

link: http://www.refinery29.com/what-is-bdsm-sex-aftercare

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“…But since people will still be asking this question (and I’ll still be unable to resist the compulsion to answer) when I’m 97 and senile, I might as well go ahead and write my “definitive” answer to this question now; that way it won’t matter if I go all soft in the brains department, I can just refer to my notes that say, “This is your opinion on such-and-such, remember?”

So what is the difference between a submissive and a slave?”

link: http://www.katekinsey.com/the-difference-between-a-slave-and-a-submissive.html

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Lifestyle Dominants and Professional Dominants: Can’t We All Just Get Along

“I heard the terms “lifestyle domme” and “professional domme” one too many times, especially on the fem- domme websites. My question is what the hell is the difference? You kinky folk are so confusing with your terms. Please explain the difference to a simpleton like me.”

link: http://www.miaminewtimes.com/arts/lifestyle-dominants-and-professional-dominants-cant-we-all-just-get-along-6493687

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What It Means To Be A TRUE Dominant (And Not Just Another D*ck)

“We think “Dominant” and immediately fantasize about power and control and exercising those desires, without acknowledging the reality that we are not the only person here. Somehow that can get lost and we assume that “Dominant” means just that, and the other person is just a replaceable prop we are playing with… Here are three key factors a Dominant must keep in mind at all times when embarking on a BDSM relationship with a submissive.”

link: http://www.yourtango.com/2017301165/what-it-means-be-true-dominant-bdsm-relationship-submissive

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Ava D’Amore’s Brand (spanking) new VIP Gallery!

I’ve recently added a password-protected VIP gallery to my website. You can receive the password (and thus, lifetime access) for just $50, which can be paid via Amazon gift card, Circle Pay, or cash if we’re lucky enough to meet in the flesh. Email switchavanyc@gmail.com to inquire.

What to expect: never-before seen (and sometimes explicit) selfies, extra photos from past shoots, exhibitionism, occasional short videos, behind the scenes kinky fun, and a closer peek into my world. My goal is to add something to the gallery every 1 to 2 weeks, and the gallery has a sizeable collection already.

What not to expect: porn.

Here’s one free sample of the kind of goodies you’ll get. Yes, this is on the subway. Enjoy.

Ava D’Amore

link: https://www.switchavanyc.com/single-post/2017/03/22/Brand-spanking-new-VIP-Gallery

Artist Page: https://theartofsubmission.com/artist/submissive-ava/

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Why You’re Turned On By The Idea Of Your Partner Having Sex With Someone Else

“However you feel about your partner having sex with someone else — whether you’re terrified or turned on (or somewhere in between) — there are many people out there who get off on the thought of their S.O. getting it on with a third party. There’s even a kink devoted to that idea: cuckolding.”
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Sexual Fetishes: What You Need to Know

“To an outsider, it can be challenging to understand how fetishes are any different from kinks. In terms of the behaviors involved, the two can definitely overlap but they are distinct. “People who are in the kink community like to discriminate fetish from kink by saying that kink is more focused on the person but the activity is part of the fun,” says Devore…”

link: http://www.mensjournal.com/expert-advice/sexual-fetishes-what-you-need-to-know-20150401/shoes-and-feet

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Fifty Shades of HEALTH: Four surprising benefits of kinky sex

“According to a post-50 Shades survey by Marie Claire, 85 percent of US adults had engaged in at least light-fare play using masks, blindfolds and bondage tools. While there is plenty of room for sexual experimentation when it comes to BDSM, there are also many physical and mental health benefits – when practiced safely and consensually. “

link: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4220014/50-shades-HEALTH-surprising-benefits-kinky-sex.html

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