“If you’re unfamiliar with the BDSM scene, you might think it’s all whips, handcuffs, and pleasurable pain, but there’s one important element that BDSM practitioners have built into their sex lives to make sure that everyone involved feels safe and cared for after play time is over: a practice known as aftercare. And whether you’re into BDSM or have more vanilla tastes, aftercare is something everyone should be doing.”

link: http://www.refinery29.com/what-is-bdsm-sex-aftercare

“…But since people will still be asking this question (and I’ll still be unable to resist the compulsion to answer) when I’m 97 and senile, I might as well go ahead and write my “definitive” answer to this question now; that way it won’t matter if I go all soft in the brains department, I can just refer to my notes that say, “This is your opinion on such-and-such, remember?”

So what is the difference between a submissive and a slave?”

link: http://www.katekinsey.com/the-difference-between-a-slave-and-a-submissive.html

“I heard the terms “lifestyle domme” and “professional domme” one too many times, especially on the fem- domme websites. My question is what the hell is the difference? You kinky folk are so confusing with your terms. Please explain the difference to a simpleton like me.”

link: http://www.miaminewtimes.com/arts/lifestyle-dominants-and-professional-dominants-cant-we-all-just-get-along-6493687

“We think “Dominant” and immediately fantasize about power and control and exercising those desires, without acknowledging the reality that we are not the only person here. Somehow that can get lost and we assume that “Dominant” means just that, and the other person is just a replaceable prop we are playing with… Here are three key factors a Dominant must keep in mind at all times when embarking on a BDSM relationship with a submissive.”

link: http://www.yourtango.com/2017301165/what-it-means-be-true-dominant-bdsm-relationship-submissive

“Not abusive or deviant, this sexual kink is based on communication, consent and trust, says a ‘professional’ Sub(missive) Asmi Uniqus. Here’s a quick myth buster”

link: http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report-untying-that-knotty-bdsm-2358376

“Yoga. Meditation. Marijuana. Wine. Bubble baths. Deep breathing exercises. Naps. These are all common strategies people use to relax. But according to a new study published by Archives of Sexual Behavior, puppy play (a.k.a. “pup play”) is also an excellent way to unwind.”

link: https://www.queerty.com/human-pup-play-excellent-conduit-relaxation-study-finds-20170329

“To an outsider, it can be challenging to understand how fetishes are any different from kinks. In terms of the behaviors involved, the two can definitely overlap but they are distinct. “People who are in the kink community like to discriminate fetish from kink by saying that kink is more focused on the person but the activity is part of the fun,” says Devore…”

link: http://www.mensjournal.com/expert-advice/sexual-fetishes-what-you-need-to-know-20150401/shoes-and-feet

“According to a post-50 Shades survey by Marie Claire, 85 percent of US adults had engaged in at least light-fare play using masks, blindfolds and bondage tools. While there is plenty of room for sexual experimentation when it comes to BDSM, there are also many physical and mental health benefits – when practiced safely and consensually. “

link: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4220014/50-shades-HEALTH-surprising-benefits-kinky-sex.html

” …The image is weird, it’s arresting, and to the judges of the WeFetish kink photography contest, it was irresistibly sexy with its pairing of an outrageously brawny man and an outrageously frilly bike.”

link: http://www.out.com/art-books/2017/2/15/behind-power-play-psychology-fetish-photography