Time to celebrate Fall with our newest Featured Artist! Next up is a veteran AOS advertiser – the sassy, the spirited, the singular Little Miss Mandie Rae! A kink educator, film starlet, ABDL enthusiastic and kink party host, this is one Artist that knows her stuff! (Here’s a little Behind-the Scenes-tidbit – when we, *founder of forementioned BDSM website*, don’t know something about BDSM, Mandie Rae is always to the rescue. She’s our guru too!)
Hi Mandie! I’m so sorry it’s taken such a long time to get an interview in! With your website, you were always such a bold presence on AOS. You still are! When can we expect your website back? And any new developments with it?
After Sesta/Fosta, things got a little complicated. I hope to have a newly redesigned website up in the new year, complete with a special gallery for my favorite clients.
Let’s start from the beginning and get to know you. What are your roots with BDSM?
I’ve had kinky inclinations for as far back as my memories go. I was the kid tying up and spanking her toys, playing kidnapping games, and pushing my friends to take “playing house” and “doctor” to a different level. I was obsessed with TV and movies that showed spanking, corporal punishment, or forced regression.
I found out I was kinky because my best friend and I lost our virginity around the same time. She asked me what my favorite position was, and I replied that I liked when he tied me up and spanked me. She was quiet for quite some time, so I asked what her favorite position was… She informed me that it was from behind. It was then that I realized that I had different erotic tastes than others. I went home and began doing research on kink, fetishes, and BDSM. The second I was of age, I started going to kink meetups and events.
Aha I see how this foreshadows some of your current interests. So how has your play style evolved through the years?
When I started off in the community, I thought I was purely a submissive. A bratty sub, but still a sub. The more I played and the more dynamics I tried, something about that just didn’t feel right. I felt stuck. Upon opening up more and engaging in a few group scenes, I realized that I had a penchant for teasing, sadism, and a love of being worshiped.
It turns out I am a true 50/50 switch. I don’t enjoy one more than the other. Depending on my mood, I crave to be that good girl who pleases my partner, a brat who needs to be punished, a cruel and sadistic mistress, or the sensual seductress who uses their partner for pleasure. I find that I am both a care taker and someone who loves to be doted on.
When I realized I didn’t have to be confined to one role, it freed me. I am now an unabashed hedonist. I can take on whatever role suits me at the time. Whatever feels right and good is what I am going to do.
I’ve also come to the realization that BDSM doesn’t always have to be serious business. Sometimes it can be fun to have silly scenes, or just explore with one another without expectations. Not everything needs to be whips and chains all the time.
That brings us up to the present. What are you excited about these days?
I am the master of the tie and tease. I delight in tying my partner down and using them for my own pleasure. I relish in their anticipation of what is to come, and watching the facial expressions of ecstasy and agony flash over them as I tease them to the point they are about to burst.
Playing with the idea of punishment hits all my buttons. Anything that ventures into the realm of embarrassing, humiliating, or degrading is a personal favorite. I want that rush of shame to be present. Feeling my face get flush or watching as it happens to someone else is a turn on.
I also love learning! Teaching and helping someone explore for the first time, or trying out a kink, fetish or role I haven’t before is fulfilling. Part of the reason I am a provider is because it brings me joy to have new, unique, and intimate experiences with others.
Oh! I also love group play! I especially enjoy sessions with couples. Whether I am being their play thing, sharing my knowledge with them, or we are just enjoying each others company, it feels amazing to take part in something that brings them closer together.
It’s Halloween month and costumes and role plays are the top topics! What’re your favorite role plays these days?
I really get into role playing! The props, clothing, make up, and clever scene ideas make the experience immersive. I am skillful at getting into character and setting a scene. I improvise well, and I find that these engagements are always unique. It’s cliché, but student/teacher will always be my favorite, followed by being a babysitter. I’ve been doing more medical play lately, and that’s been fun. Typically, the darker the scene idea, the better. I also do a lot of consensual non consent.
Most people know me for age play content. The power dynamic that inherently exists when interjecting age gaps is appealing to me. Age play is fun because it is versatile. It can be combined with almost any other kink or fetish. The Lolita who lures in unsuspecting men, the naughty student, the cute babygirl who wants to please daddy, the vulnerable younger party who is taken advantage of, the school yard bully, the naive one who needs to be taught.. It can go so many ways! Most have a narrow view of what AP is. AP can be role playing any age or life stage ranging from baby to geriatric, and it doesn’t always have to be the “older” person who is the Top in a scene. For instance, the Lolita who is seducing her teacher could be the dominant one during play.
Speaking of age play, you have a unique fetish… Tell us more about ABDL play.
ABDL (adult baby/diaper lover) was one of my first kinks. As a bottom, I lean more on the DL side of things. While I do enjoy being taken care of, for me it is primarily a humiliation and control thing. The most embarrassing thing I can think of is having someone else be in control of your bodily functions and being forced to regress. When I’m topping for ABDL things, I enjoy being a caregiver as well as using it as a humiliation tactic.
You are a kink educator. What would you like people to know most about BDSM?
Kink and sex education is something I am very passionate about. I got my degree in psychology specifically to learn everything I could pertaining to human sexuality. Intimacy is so important, but as a society we do not talk openly talk about it. Often having a kink or fetish makes people feel isolated, like they need to hide that part of themselves from others. I want to normalize what society thinks of as “abnormal.” You can have kinks and still be perfectly well adjusted. I want to make people feel less alone and ashamed. For this reason I am very out about my sexuality. I even have a place where people can ask me question anonymously about kink, BDSM or about me personally. You can ask me anything here: https://curiouscat.me/dammitpunk
What are your plans for the upcoming year?
I have had many jobs in the adult entertainment field. I’ve been a stripper, I actively did porn for a few years, ran a dungeon, spent some time as a cam girl and did phone sessions. Recently, I dove back into making custom video content and offering private cam shows again, and it’s been great! This year, I plan on shooting more of my own content. For custom vid and cam show inquires you can email firstname.lastname@example.org.
I’ve been doing quite a bit of bouncing back and forth between NYC, New Jersey, and Albany. I hope to have a new dungeon space in Albany soon.
I also want to focus more on kink education. I am in the process of writing a book about the dynamics and psychology of age play.
Whew! Do you have any time to relax even? What are you doing when you aren’t working?
When I’m not planning epic scenes or educating the masses, I watch a lot of movies. I am an avid cinema lover, primarily psychological thrillers, horror movies, and scifi/fantasy/dystopian. Netflix and chill is my go to! Nothing like cuddling up (I’m a pro cuddler) with someone in a dark room, nestled in the blankets and getting lost in a movie together. My current fave movie is Midsommar. It gave me a ton of creepy, cult like scene fantasies, haha! I also devour novels and sometimes write my own erotica.
And since Halloween is fast approaching, tell us a quick scary story!
Someone takes me out on a wonderful date. We share a delicious steak dinner. Our meal is filled with great conversation, and we make each other laugh. After, we hold hands and walk along the deserted city streets. I invite them inside for a glass of whiskey and to watch a movie. We spend the entire film cuddling, kissing, and gently touching one another. It’s clear we both want more…I pull out the restraints and suggest some kinky fun. Stunned, they inform me that they don’t try new things.
Thank you so much for taking the time out of your busy schedule to chat with us this month! For more Q+A, BDSM tidbits, hot behind-the-scene photos and funny kink memes, take a peek at her Twitter @dammitpunk.
Check out her Artist profile here and email her at email@example.com to set up a date – Netflix not included ;-)!